"At that time the kingdom of heaven will be like ten virgins who took their lamps and went out to meet the bridegroom. Five of them were foolish and five were wise. The foolish ones took their lamps but did not take any oil with them. The wise, however, took oil in jars along with their lamps. The bridegroom was a long time in coming, and they all became drowsy and fell asleep.
"At midnight the cry rang out: 'Here's the bridegroom! Come out to meet him!'"Then all the virgins woke up and trimmed their lamps. The foolish ones said to the wise, 'Give us some of your oil; our lamps are going out.'
" 'No,' they replied, 'there may not be enough for both us and you. Instead, go to those who sell oil and buy some for yourselves.'
"But while they were on their way to buy the oil, the bridegroom arrived. The virgins who were ready went in with him to the wedding banquet. And the door was shut.
"Later the others also came. 'Sir! Sir!' they said. 'Open the door for us!'
"But he replied, 'I tell you the truth, I don't know you.'
"Therefore keep watch, because you do not know the day or the hour. Matthew 25: 1-14
in lew of the conversation this week our our cohort meeting on salvation this scripture being used in our sunday school class was particularly interesting. this is certainly a story speaking of the coming of Christ and speaks to those who have made a decision to follow Christ. however, much to one of the topics we talked about in the cohort meeting, this doesn't touch on if someone get's ready for Christ in a one time salvation experience. it's more of being ready for the coming of Christ. what i took from this scripture today in our talk was from the questions that were asked in sunday school class. one, a lady asked in a smaller discussion group "what does he mean by 'you don't know me?'" second, as the group there was discussion of why those who were prepared (with oil) didn't give any to the others who were not.
to the first lady (and of course i shared this with the class) that Christ doesn't just call for us to accept him but to know him in relationship. the best analogy, i see, is if i say that i am dating erin, but if i never talk to her then what do i really know about who she is. if i don't go on a date with her then i never physically show to others that she is a part of my life. this could be translated as prayer, mission, evangelism, conversation, etc. it's up to us with Christ to figure out the dynamics of our relationship.
so in the context of a relationship with Christ. as the virgins with little oil say 'give us some of that so that we can all go to the wedding' people might have said this to you (or you have said it to others) 'i wish i could have a relationship like that (or like yours/theirs).' the problem is, you can't give away a relationship, it can't be done. you can want to give something to them, introduce them, share how you got that relationship, but you can never give to them the relationship to where Christ would say "welcome old friend."