semi-rant coming
today in an abridged staff meeting we found ourselves in a conversation about our frustrations with enemy number one of the church. we all know who they are.. it is those groups or teams that people put priority over their faith life and the church.
for us in hendersonville, this enemy is manifested most in soccer (not limited too). as the youth minister i have my share of soccer "stars" who have to compete year round every day of the week (look at my myspace to see some of my soccer peeps talking about not being able to come to church). i am a fan of soccer, but i did okay by participating in pal league ball and getting to play on my high school teams (which had a state title & various regional & league titles).
the conversation started today because we have confirmation retreat this weekend. of the 40 some confirmands, 10 or so are not able to make it (even with 6 months due notice and a signed covenant) because of sports, a family vacation (that apparently couldn't leave a few hours later), and a justin timberlake concert.
the questions come easy... where is the priority? is your child's participation in 6th grade sports really more important than their spiritual life? do we feel this way because we feel pressure for numbers or to "fix" kids? yet, are undermined by the people we try to serve.
do we need to get into the numbers.. the numbers that your child will most likely not be playing under scholarship no matter what they do in these travel teams. even more slim are the chances that your child will be in professional sports. yet, the priority is placed to be successful in sports by participating at the cost of everything else. this cost could be, a physical body (most trainers will tell you that you need a day off), a spiritual body (everyone needs a community to connect with, if it is a church body then that becomes a good balance), needs personality (people who only know one thing are pretty boring outside their one thing, not to mention could be socially mal-adjusted).
i don't have any answers... partly because the answers don't lie within me. the sad truth is that our culture is post-christian, even now in the bible belt. families show daily what is important to them, through check books, time and energy... many times the important things have little to do with a spiritual life. i don't fault all coaches, i've seen some great ones over the years of watching various games at various skill levels. they have expectations too, but i do think that those expectations have lost perspective. sports at early child & youth levels is not about winning, but the pure learnings of sportsmanship and teamwork. not beating another to be "number one" or looking into your future "potential."
so this is my rant... frustration from a drawback of grace that i try to offer as freely as i know. i think of Christ encountering the rich young man. "i observe all the laws" "fine, then give all your money to the poor".. to this the young man walks away and both fee saddened.
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